There is loneliness in the heart of all humans

There is loneliness in the heart of all humans, who has known or not known love; the longing to be held and recognized. To be full with a person whose power stimulates and shares life... but that longing or "loneliness" is ripe for exploitation from the Adversary. Satan is more crafty and deceptive than you are aware of.

It is your DNA to nurture and be caregivers, while at the same time to be wanted, loved, cherished and desired. Woman was drawn from the body of man, and long to be joined back to him as man, also man longs to be joined with the woman...so all embark on life’s search. It's in woman’s nature to yearn for the strength of a man's arms to enfold her and protect her and for man to want to protect. But it is also a tool of the Adversary to use that same need in you, to weaken you to engage in sinful surrender to temptation, as he snares you into wrongdoing.

The same tricks have been used on man & women ever since. First, you are given to excited confusion over what is real and not real, so you chose the flesh side in fantasy. Then you are given conflicting signals about what that excitement actually means to you, in your flesh and in your psychology. Hormones become inflamed and the choice of passion is controlled by the flesh. Then you doubt that the Lord will hold you accountable for your failure, because he is a loving God, a forgiving God and would want you to be happy. THEN, you are seduced with the false feeling of power, in that you can chose to do with your body as you see fit...IT'S YOUR BODY! you say to yourself, thus excusing your sin.

But is it your body? Or is it what God created for you to live in? Your body is the Temple of God? You have a responsibility to God to honor His temple “your flesh”, by respecting your body and only giving it as a gift to the person who God would have you share it with in HONOR and in love, not simply momentary lust? For lust fades, sooner or later, and leaves the bearer with guilt over the sin committed. It’s a guarantee.

A man will not respect a woman he can seduce within a few hours. They don't take those kinds of girls home to mother, and they rarely take those kinds of girls to the alter. A man wants a woman to cherish, protect, honor, and be proud of, love with all his being. Saying NO takes strength and self respect. It inspires a man to return that respect, and look at the woman who told him no, in 1 of 2 ways. Either he is a dog and will look for another woman to seduce (which he will do immediately after achieving conquest of the first woman, anyhow) OR he will discover that this is a woman to which he will be drawn to for her honor, courage and self respect. He will be able to build a cherishing and nurturing relationship with her, because he will find her to be a noble creature, principled and virtuous.

THAT is the kind of woman GOOD men desire...the rest they throw away. Being thrown away creates heartache and disillusionment in the woman. It makes them suffer and cry tears of regret at missing the mark again. That is how the deception of the adversary works. Make you think that your are going to have a roaring good time and find the gem you have been looking for, so you opened up to that person you just met and fulfilled the lust of the flesh. Soon, however, that person loses interest and  "down the road" to the next bus stop. The flesh is weak and it will perish, right along with the love affair.

God blessed you with rare qualities and you are not to waste them on heathens who are only looking for a good romp in the hay for a night or a few weeks.

If we stand strong, and faithful to the Lord's commandments and not engage in fornication and adultery, then you will have heightened self esteem and know that you are victorious over your sin.